Discover What You Want

“Knowledge of what you love somehow comes to you;”–Jessamyn West

We don’t have to talk ourselves into what we love, but sometimes we have to give ourselves some space, time, or exposure to discover it.  Read the following words slowly and notice when you feel lighter or have an increase in energy.  (Notice if your energy decreases too.)  Remember or make note of the words that give you a positive feeling.

Simplicity   Adventure   Travel   Relief   Intimacy   Health   Work   Home   Training   Education   To Create

Make an illustrated discovery journal.  This tool comes from Sarah Ban Breathnach, in Simple Abundance: A Daybook of Comfort and Joy. Gather scissors, stick glue, a bunch of magazines, and a thick piece of paper, art paper, cardboard, an artist’s sketchbook, or poster board.  Look through the magazines and cut out any pictures that immediately draw you, that you love. Paste them onto the bigger paper.  Don’t edit.  Don’t talk yourself into or out of anything.  Paste them on any way you want or just glue them willy-nilly.

What patterns emerge?  What are you drawn to again and again?  What is your heart trying to tell you?

Once you start to have an idea about what you want, you can write comments here about your process or discoveries, or go to the Obstacles page to look at what keeps you from heading toward it.

When Misery Is Company: End Self-Sabotage and Become Content

When Misery Is Company

Think these are good ideas, but after a week, you still haven’t gathered materials or set aside time to make room for letting your wants emerge? Read:  When Misery is Company.

Or have you been so involved with social media, texting, roaming the internet, or playing games that you haven’t gotten around to paying attention to what you want?  Order Boundaries in an Overconnected World right now.

Setting Limits to Preserve Your Focus, Privacy, Relationships, and Sanity

Boundaries in an Overconnected World

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7 thoughts on “Discover What You Want

  1. Good Morning,
    I am writing to inquire if you do speaking engagements. we are a small Montessori preschool in Manhattan. Each year we create a series of speakers for parents and faculty. After just finishing your book “Boundaries in an Overconnected World” I feel you would be a great addition to a panel of speakers we are putting together for a panel discussion on technology and it’s effects on children and families.
    Please let me know what your fees might be for an evening such as this.

    Thank you

    Teri Lawrence

  2. Hello Anne

    Thank you for your Boundaries book – life changing :). I have a question about a comment you make in it (page 89, I think) – is there any way I can e-mail you? I want to ask you to refer me to other sources on this particular subject but as it is a delicate matter, I don’t want to do it in an open forum. Hope you are agreeable?

  3. Anne, I have been struggling with food addiction for close to 50 years now. I bought both YOUR APPETITE SWITCH and FOUR CHANGES. I’m wondering if one is better than the other, is there a certain order they should be read in and since they both have slightly different approaches, how do I know which one is best for me?
    Thank you so much.

    • Hi Ina,
      Your Appetite Switch gives more information about the science of appetite disorder and a more comprehensive series of worksheets for you to use to observe the evidence that your brain chemicals are changing.

      Four changes condenses the process to give you quicker self-checks and a simpler, more focused change process.

      Either are effective so your best choice would be determined by what you know about yourself.
      Do you need a process that takes less of your time and has a speedier result? Then 4 changes is your starting place.
      Do you do better knowing the reasons for things, like to be more comprehensive in your self observation? Do you want all the evidence that you truly are giving your brain a makeover in the appetite department? then Your Appetite Switch is the starting place.

      The good thing is that they are in alignment, so if you need something different than the one you’re using, you can switch to the other process and pick up in about the same place and continue. You need not start over.

      Best wishes for you.

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