“Nudges–when I learned to listen to them, they never steered me wrong.”
Once you know what you want and you’ve identified the obstacles, what boundaries do you need in order to move forward?
Do you need to set a boundary with a particular person who often takes more time than you want to give? What about a boundary for your entire family so that you have the personal time to know your own mind. Want a boundary with that co-worker who keeps taking things from your desk?
Below are excerpts, taken from two of my books, of boundaries that can enhance your personal power. Excerpt 1 is part of an exercise for setting boundaries with someone who assumes you think the way he does. Excerpt 2 is about looking at your response to requests. The chapter it is from helps you set boundaries so that you aren’t giving others too much of your time and energy.
Excerpt 1. Boundaries, Where You End and I Begin, from an exercise in making your own voice heard:
This is hard for me to say. I see it differently than you do.”
“I value your opinion. Mine’s different in this case.”
Excerpt 2. From Where to Draw the Line,
We are not required to do whatever someone wants of us. Always remember that you carry the ultimate responsibility for directing your life. When someone asks something of you, you are the authority on whether or not it will be good for you to say yes.”
Given the wants and obstacles you’ve identified, what boundaries will help you move toward your desire?
- In the comment section below, name the boundary you want to build.