“A Boundary is a Limit that Protects Integrity.”

Boundaries define what is you and what is not you, what matters to you, and what doesn’t matter.  They are a container for positive actions and choices, and restrict intrusions, distractions, and detours.  As you become more aware of your own boundaries, or of detecting that a boundary is needed, you can be more intentional about setting or protecting your boundaries.

Boundary setting is a skill, like reading, skating, or watering plants.  The first time you do it, it feels awkward and unnatural.  Then the more you practice setting boundaries, the better you will get at it.  One day you’ll realize you protected something important to you with grace and effectiveness.

You have a choice about what boundaries to start with.  Let your goal be your guide.

Communication and Internet Boundaries

• Just how many times in one day are you interrupted by a text, a tweet, an email, or a game that requires you to do something?
• When you go to a website, is your focus diverted by ads that, amazingly, reflect your own interests?
• Are you confident that your computer is protected from invasion?
• Are you sure that your children are safe online?
• Do you know if your child is practicing behavioral scripts that will increase his likelihood of reacting violently?
• Has your child been disturbed by an online predator?  (Most children don’t reveal this to their parents.)
• Do you know how to talk to your child in a way that will encourage him or her to tell you if something online is frightening?
• Are you spending uninterrupted, face-to-face time with the people you care about most?
• Are your children learning good relationship skills?

Want to reclaim your time, intimacy, privacy, safety, and protect your children and yourself?  Get Boundaries in an Overconnected World.

It’s all about setting boundaries so that you are free to pursue your goals.

Boundary Basics

Want to understand boundaries?  One of first books ever written on boundaries, Boundaries, Where You End and I Begin, is a classic. Designated as one of the top ten books on relationships, it’s been a steady seller for more than 20 years.  This is the basic book on boundaries.

Want help setting boundaries?  Where to Draw the Line has scripts you can use to set boundaries in a variety of situations with all sorts of people–a nosy neighbor, your grasping sister, that passive aggressive mother-in-law.

Specialized Boundaries and Processes for Health & Recovery

• Food and Eating Boundaries
• When Misery Is Company